Saturday, November 20, 2010

Another Saturday Pet Blogger Hop

Wow, how did it get to be Thanksgiving??

I seem to be missing most of the month of November and October, this whole year has flew by, is that what happens when you are 55?
It is a beautiful day here in North Carolina, gorgeous blue sky, leaves are reds, oranges, burnt oranges, etc. I have work to do in the back yard, errands to run, pea soup to make and my dogs to love.
More later.

Monday, October 11, 2010

Just a thought....

"Close your eyes for a moment and think about the love that makes you sigh. I not only find it in the arms of my loved ones, but in the caress of a sunset, the kiss of the moonlight and the gentle brush of cool air on a hot day. And the depth of my friendships." (unknown)

Just a reminder to all the special people in my life......thanks.

Sunday, October 3, 2010

To catch my long list of followers and readers up on my life, I thought I would update you on my so called love life or lack thereof. Remember the woman I met through the online dating service? Well, long story short - after several emails telling me that she was still grieving over past relationship and just wanted to be friends and then a week or so after said email she would email me and ask to try again. After 3 emails saying she was still grieving and couldn't do a relationship and the subsequent let's try again emails, I told her to stop, I wasn't on a dating site to find friends, I was looking for a relationship. So needless to say I have not heard from her in about 10 days which is good. I live to my very best a drama free life, which I am finding is not how most people live their lives.

There is the one person in my life that I can not have, can not be with and it is the hardest thing I have done for a long time. We made the decision we could not be together for several reasons, we both understand it is best. Being the "best" for us does not make the pain any less, does not stop me missing her and does not stop the thought of her, or seeing her smile when I close my eyes.

Ahhh so much to think about.
Love your people and your dogs,

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Another Sunday Evening

About a month ago, Aug. 22, to be exact, I wrote about my friend's mother in law, taking a turn for the worse and the family was sitting vigil. She passed on today with her husband and two sons with her. This last month as been a very trying time for my friend and her family. Spending times at the nursing facility, raising a 4 year old, working and living has taken its toll on them. We move on with life now.
I am a firm believer that at these times, sometimes the dying person needs to hear it is ok to leave, that the family will be ok and that its time to leave. My friend did that for the mother in law today and I think it helped the mother in law pass on.

This has been a month of passing over. I sat with a good friend as his 13 year old lab was put to sleep. His vet was a kind, gentle and considerate woman. Her thoughtfulness helped ease my friends pain of losing his dog. I am so glad I could be there for him.
Love your people and your dogs.

Monday, September 13, 2010

Been a while, been busy......

Last time I wrote I was getting ready for our trip to the beach. Getting 4 dogs, all the necessities for a week at the beach in the car with room for me to drive is not an easy chore. Everything and everyone packed, we hit the road at 9am on Saturday, arrived at Emerald Isle at noon.
Unloaded the car, all 4 dogs and off we went for a walk on the beach.  I could tell the water was churning, rip tides were a plenty as the far away hurricane played with the water.  As usual it was soothing and beautiful.
To make a long story short, we were evacuated on Thursday because of Hurricane Earl.
So the paradise was cut short, but not before a trip to Shackleford Banks to see the wild ponies.
Here are few pictures of the gorgeous horses. We got close and they acted as if we were part of the landscape.  

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Sunday Evening

I could easily call this Sitting Vigil II. My friend's mother-in-law is now in a nursing home and the family is sitting vigil again. So friends are sitting with them, no matter where they are, and no matter what is needed it will be handled.
I think back to the family that has passed in my life, my Mum when I wasn't home, I was in California, (talk about an awful plane ride- CA to Minnesota), my grandparents- Grandpa Joe who drew his last breath with me in the room, I was alone with him and told him it was okay and he listened. Keep my friends in your thoughts and for those that pray, that would be good too.

My pups and I will be leaving for the North Carolina shore, Emerald Isle to be exact, on Saturday morning for a week. I can't wait - I need to see the ocean, to watch the waves, to see the horizon and wonder what is there, and to dream. Hailey, my oldest female, 10 years old, started limping this morning, favoring her left paw, I see nothing although she is a bit tender in her shoulder area, not sure what is going on with her, I will be keeping my eye on it.

On a more personal note, I met a nice woman through an online dating site. Her and I started a bit bumpy, as she said she was still dealing with an ex. She emailed and asked to go our own paths and I agreed. A week later, she emailed and asked that we start again, I took the chance and had a nice dinner, not sure if it will be anything, but I like talking with her, she is smart, kind, and getting to know her is fine. So more on this as it evolves.

So I got 2 followers from the Blog hop yesterday, two people read my blog! Very excited about that.
Love your people and dogs.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

Saturday Blog Hop

This is my first Saturday Pet Blogger Hop. Not sure if anyone will actually read my blog, Here's to hoping!

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Sitting Vigil

I'm writing this more for me then for my friend, whose mother in law is in the hospital with liver complications. My friend and her husband are sitting vigil.  I feel helpless- not much that can be done, just the usual "I'm here" sentiments.  I'm a definite " I will fix this, take care of this, no worries", but not with this circumstance.  I can only stand by the door until needed.

Why is that we die in silence? Silence in the room, everyone speaking in hushed tones, careful movements and I have never understood why.  I think the last moments should be filled with stories, laughing, crying, telling the dying person what you should have said long ago.  They may not be conscious - say it anyway, they can hear you and feel you.
I once sat with a friend as she was dying from cancer that had ended up in her liver, she was in and out of consciousness.  I sat and told stories and shared memories with her, sometimes crying myself.  I told one special story that was just between her and I, and after I finished with tears in my eyes, my dear friend let out a laugh/giggle.  I knew she knew I was there.  She passed about an hour later.  I felt like I had done my best in making her last moments full of love and caring.

Now I will sit and wait till I am needed. Sitting vigil.
Love your dogs and people,

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Why do I watch the news anymore???

For years I have gotten up in the morning, feed the dogs, got my coffee and checked emails, etc while
watching the Today show. More and more watching has done nothing but raised my blood pressure!!!
Newt Gingrich before a full cup of coffee should not be allowed.
I'm not sure how political I should really get in this blog.........but I will say it once:
THE TEA PARTY has to go!!! Sarah Palin is not a politician!    Have you ever heard an original thought come out of the phony's mouth..............nope, just finds something that someone else has done or said and away she goes, usually posting on her Facebook page.....really people really??????
This is definitely a rambling.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

About Subject to Change

I think many will look at this title of my blog and think the title will be changing when in fact Subject
to Change is how I view the world, always changing and never the same.  Subject to Change is also my daily life with 3 Whippets and 1 Wiggie (Sterling is  a Wiggie - an oops litter between a Whippet and Italian Greyhound, thus a wiggie.)
No day is the same and if I start getting too complacent one of the dogs will most certainly take the reins and make sure that no moment is the same.

Left is Grace - 6 years old      
right is Winston - 13 years old.
-Left is Hailey - 10 years old     right is Sterling - 1 yr, 9 mos.

I direct a program female undergrad athletes at Duke University that are interested in becoming doctors. This group of young women are amazing, talented and so bright, it gives me hope for the world every day and provides me with wonderful to stories to share.
For added humor, I'm attempting the online dating world.    Not sure if it is the lesbian world, or just that the crazies seem to find me.
More later, the Kruger Krazies are yelling for attention.

Pay attention to your loves,